Men Also Need Someone to Comfort Them!

One of the virtuous men said to me: "Do you not notice that women have become central in headlines and attention, even in the discourse of reformist preachers? They focus on the injustice falling upon women and absolving Sharia from it, to make her feel Islam's fairness towards her and save her from the clutches of feminism.

This is at a time when media discourse and regimes focus on 'women's victimhood' and inciting her against men...

Should we not also fear for men when they feel this marginalization, then look at the religious discourse and feel that it does not do them justice either?!

I fear that after a period, perhaps not long, we will need to convince men of the virtues of Sharia and that Sharia has done them justice and not wronged them, in order to save them from the clutches of masculinism, which is inflamed by the injustice falling upon them too."

And I say: He spoke the truth! For men are in need of someone to comfort them and pat their shoulders too..

Followers know that I try to do justice to women with a balanced religious discourse, which pleases neither the fanatics of feminism nor the fanatics of masculinism, but by the grace of Allah, it has restored to many sisters their pride in their religion and to families their stability.

So what I will say here is not speech biased towards a "team" over the other. Rather, I say: I know of cases, not few in number, of men upon whom real injustice fell from their wives who did not know their rights and duties, and I knew this from hearing from both parties..

And I know cases of men who were generally benevolent, but Satan sowed discord between one of them and his wife, and the wife transgressed in the dispute. Then suddenly the man sees himself, after long years of marriage, benevolence, spending, memories, toil, fatigue, and bearing debts for the sake of his family, thrown into prison due to a false complaint by his wife in a society and judiciary not governed by Sharia. Thus, the worry of debt gathers upon him, along with illness in which marital problems play a role, the heartbreak of seeing his children witness what is happening to the family, and the oppression from the injustice that fell upon him from those closest to him!

I know men who called me crying from oppression... and how difficult is the oppression of men, from which our Prophet (peace be upon him) sought refuge!

These injustices may soon generate a grievance-based masculine tendency rebellious against Sharia, on the grounds that Sharia did not do it justice, exactly as happened with feminism.

We are in societies where neither individuals nor those in power rule by Sharia, except for those whom my Lord has shown mercy... So it is no wonder that injustice falls upon men and women alike, especially since the enemies of the Ummah and their stooges exploit the injustice of some men to incite women to commit injustice in return! To fragment the family and destroy the most important fortress.

In these circumstances, we need our religious discourse to be balanced, to emerge balanced from the start, not that we lean towards one side, angering the other, then come to patch it up by appeasing the angry one like someone with quarreling partners!

We need to remember, all of us, Muslim men and Muslim women, that we have submitted to a Just Judge who has given everyone with a right their due, and not to be like two prepared, quarreling, enemy teams in a wrestling ring, where the referee is human wolves who came feigning fairness to women and victory for them, while in reality, they want no good for the men of the Ummah nor its women!

We need to believe deeply in the saying of Allah the Almighty: (It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error).. So the command of Allah and His Messenger is upon our heads and eyes, all of us, men and women...

We need to remember, all of us, the saying of our Lord, the Just Judge: (The believing men and believing women are allies of one another).. Allies, supporting each other like a structure where one part strengthens the other, one hand against the external enemy and his stooges.

We need our title as families and societies to be: Here is the Ummah of Islam, we solve our problems among ourselves by the Sharia of Allah, whom we have accepted as Lord, and entry is forbidden for dogs!

(And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed).