It is very natural for marital relationships to go through phases of tension and misunderstanding. It does not diminish your worth to seek help from wise and trustworthy brothers to help you overcome this phase. We often exaggerate the obsession (I don't want so-and-so to have a negative impression of me... I don't want the image of my family to be shaken...). Yes, covering up family issues is required, and there are husbands who deceive themselves into thinking they are complaining to a friend for help, while in reality, they are "venting" and expressing their distress to someone who cannot help them. In such cases, we return and say: rather, discretion is the principle. And covering up each spouse's flaws is a noble and great value of loyalty. But when you are no longer able to contain the problem and deal with it rationally, and the issue gets out of control and you enter a vicious cycle, your thinking is emotional and the souls are charged, then the need arises for someone to look at your problem from outside the chaos. Here, it does not diminish your worth to seek help from a wise relative or friend, nor does it diminish your refinement. You can even be refined in your dispute, presenting your problem to the necessary extent while acknowledging your wife's virtues (if you dislike one of her traits, accept another). As for the one who refuses to seek help from any party, even though his matter is out of control and negatively affects the stability of the family, the rights of the other party, and the children, and yet refuses so that his image is not tarnished, let him search within himself, perhaps it is arrogance that prevented him and made him lose legitimate rights for the sake of the "sacredness" of his image! - "But I am a role model, people respect me, I solve people's problems, not people solving my problems." Very natural, Your Excellency the role model, and it is not necessary that these problems be a sign of a flaw in you. Even if they are a sign, seek help from your brothers to be a mirror for you, helping you to correct your flaw, for (the believer is a mirror to his brother), (and the believers, men and women, are supporters of one another). And the one who helps you solve your family problem today may come to you tomorrow to ask for your help in solving his family problem... very natural. - "But I will fall from the eyes of so-and-so if I show him my weakness and problems." - The one who falls from his eyes because you seek his help with your human weakness is lacking in him and his respect! And such a person is not sought for help in the first place. - Remember that our Prophet (peace be upon him) had a dispute with his wives, and Abu Bakr and Umar intervened. But he was refined in his dispute. Do not act with the logic of "my sacred image" as if you are better than your Prophet (peace be upon him)! - In the authentic hadith: - Abu Bakr came to seek permission to enter upon the Prophet (peace be upon him), and he heard Aisha raising her voice at the Messenger of Allah, so he allowed him to enter, and he said: (O daughter of Umm Rumman) –and he took her- (Do you raise your voice at the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)?!) - So the Prophet (peace be upon him) intervened between them (meaning he prevented him from hitting her). - When Abu Bakr left, the Prophet (peace be upon him) began to pacify her, saying: (Do you not see that I have intervened between the man and you?) - Then Abu Bakr came, and sought permission to enter upon him, and found him making her laugh, so he allowed him to enter, and he said to him: (O Messenger of Allah, include me in your reconciliation, just as you included me in your war). - Be refined in your dispute, acknowledge your human weakness, and seek help from the wise among your brothers.