What spoils the impact of advice?

Some people may explode in the face of your advice, not because they hate the truth, but because they are tired of a recurring feeling that you do not see the effort they have put into improving, and you do not appreciate the progress they have achieved. We often focus on the deficiency and forget that the other party might have been waiting for a sincere word: "Well done," or "You have progressed." If they hear nothing but blame and reproach, their heart closes, and they might say: "I do not want advice from anyone." While they are wrong in that, we may also be a cause for people's trial. This is one of the reasons that sometimes spoils the relationship between spouses and weakens the bond between parents and children; as one party feels that no matter what they do, only their shortcomings will be seen, and no matter how hard they strive, they will not hear a word of appreciation. Therefore, the Prophetic guidance was sophisticated in combining praise and guidance. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said about Abdullah bin Umar: "What an excellent man Abdullah is, if only he would pray at night." He began with praise, opening the heart, then followed with guidance, making it more impactful and eloquent.