It happens in some families that one of its members is afflicted with an illness or family problems, for example... so …
It happens in some families that one of its members is afflicted with an illness or family problems, for example... so the rest of the family members carry his worry... and try to help him... then they reach a certain limit and cannot get him out of his problem... so he is not cured of his illness nor is his situation with his husband/wife rectified.
What is very harmful here is psychological adhesion, such that all or some of them mortgage their happiness and stability to ridding this afflicted person of his problem. And they see that returning to practicing life normally is a "betrayal" of the afflicted or a "lack of loyalty". So they see that the misery of living is "the right of kinship", and the balance is disturbed and this reflects on their practice of their roles, whether as a husband, wife, father, or brother. So they see these other relationships as acceptable to neglect as long as the problem of the afflicted is not solved. Which leads to tension and the shaking of family stability, so the single problem turns into several problems, and everyone becomes afflicted along with the original afflicted person!
Here, the principle of "Psychological Distance" must be applied, such that you do not mortgage your stability and happiness to the departure of the tribulation from your relative. Severe adhesion means that everyone falls if one of them falls, and this does not benefit the afflicted, but rather drags others with him! Your psychological "burnout" does not benefit the afflicted nor does it light the way for him, but rather breaks the support with which he was strengthening his back. Beware of thinking that the misery of your life and the distress of your soul is proof of your loyalty and among the rights of the afflicted upon you!
Take the means to the maximum, and help your relative with what you can, then after that, if he is not saved from his tribulation, know that there must be losses in this life, and you must coexist with the new situation.
Do not compare the situation of your afflicted brother/father/son with the ideal image you draw in your mind for him: "I want him to be healthy as he was"... "I cannot bear to see him in this state"... Comparison with what Allah has not decreed is tiring without benefit!
Return to your social roles and perform what you must towards your wife/parents/children... and before all that towards your Lord, the Mighty and Majestic, then yourself..
And all of this does not mean forgetting the afflicted or letting him down, but rather: Give everyone who has a right their right...
In conclusion: All of this is for the loyal ones and interconnected families, otherwise we know that there are those who need to be reminded of the exact opposite: to care for their afflicted relative and offer him what help they can.
We were not placed in this world except for a test, and your good dealing with the tribulations of others is part of your success in this test.