I was talking to my daughters yesterday about studies that say a percentage of suicide cases among girls and young wome…

I was talking to my daughters yesterday about studies that say a percentage of suicide cases among girls and young women is due to their hatred of their appearance! So one of my daughters said to me: "Yes, it's true...we often hear them say: My face is ugly!"

The problem is bigger than many fathers imagine...the girl spends time on platforms like Instagram...where they exchange pictures of "artists" and "singers" and "celebrities"...then the girl sits and compares herself to these "beauty role models"!

The girl does not know that many of them undergo cosmetic surgeries and suffer mentally to maintain their external appearance...

She does not know that they are the clearest examples of the objectification of women, treating her as an object, not a human being.. and that many of them hide under a layer of skin, makeup, and creams a crushed, disturbed, scattered, weak, and fearful soul...

The girl has not learned from her parents, nor in her school, nor in her society that her value lies in her religion, the beauty of her character, the soundness of her mind, and the goodness of her heart...all of which are acquired and do not require makeup or surgeries, and only increase in beauty with time, unlike physical beauty which may fade and wither..

She was not raised on the saying of Allah: (Indeed, the most honorable of you with Allah is the most righteous of you) and the saying of our Prophet peace be upon him: (Allah does not look at your forms or your outward appearances, but He looks at your hearts) (Narrated by Muslim).

Even the standards of youth and men when marrying are often related to external appearance and neglect the goodness of the heart and the purity of the soul...

The result: the girl hates her appearance (which is, for her, the measure of her value)...so her view of herself becomes shaken, and she may even object to her fate!

O my daughter....be strong and independent, strong in your faith and pride in your religion and what Allah has given you of qualities, and independent of the false standards that some of your peers and society circulate...your value is not determined by them, they do not own happiness or tranquility for themselves, let alone give it to you. And gather your heart on the pleasure of Him who looks at your heart, glorified and exalted be He, so that you may live content, tranquil, and pleased.