Do not think that the Quran denies human emotions or burdens people beyond their psychological capacity. The important thing is to remain mindful of patience, submission, and good thoughts about Allah the Almighty. Personal page on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/EyadQunaibi ===== Twitter account https://twitter.com/Dr_EyadQun
And he turned away from them and said, "Alas for Yusuf!" and his eyes turned white from grief, while he was suppressing his sorrow.
In his heart, Yusuf, peace be upon him, remained the number one. His eyes turned white from grief until he lost his sight, while he was suppressing his sorrow. The Quran’s wording here—"his eyes turned white from grief"—shows that Jacob was deeply grieving. Does this contradict beautiful patience?
The truth is that it does not contradict it. The Quran does not deny human emotions. You can feel intense grief and intense contentment at the same time—yes, this is reasonable: intense grief and beautiful patience.
Fundamentally, the more intense the grief, the more one gathers love for God, submission to His decree, attachment to Him, and hope for relief from Him, along with good expectations of Him—the more beautiful this patience becomes. But if we reach a stage of emotional numbness, hardness of heart, or mere habit, where is the beauty of patience?
Beautiful patience is when the pain is very intense, yet you still gather your faith to endure it. Jacob’s trial was extremely severe, yet he said, "Rather, your souls have tempted you to commit a matter. But [my response can only be] beautiful patience. Perhaps God will bring them all back to me. Indeed, He is the Knowing, the Wise."
By the way, some may wonder: Jacob, peace be upon him, is the same one about whom God, the Exalted, says regarding him and other prophets: "Indeed, We chose them for the exclusive quality of the remembrance of the Hereafter." So what does this mean?
The most clear interpretation is that We chose them for a special virtue: that they remember the Hereafter. It dominates their thoughts, they act for its sake, their connection is directed toward it, and it is constantly present in their minds day and night.
Is it conceivable that a person could be like this—with the remembrance of the Hereafter controlling their mind—and still grieve over the loss of a son? Yes, absolutely. We do not want to be overly idealistic or impose on people and ourselves things that God has not required of us.
A person may grieve intensely and yet be praiseworthy, patient, content, and seeking reward.