Episode 16 - The Female, Love, and Abu Nakad

Peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah, my sisters and daughters. We have been away from the woman's series for a long time, so to not prolong the absence further, we will try to explain the episodes, even if they are short, with the permission of Allah.

The Woman, Love, and "Abu Nked"

Today's topic: The woman and love. A woman's inclination towards a man is, in its essence, a blessing and a great blessing, but in reality, it is a psychological factor for many girls.

The Crisis of Love in Women

Natural Feeling and Society

A psychological crisis with religion. How does a woman feel the natural inclination towards a man? She wants to have someone in her life to comfort her, who cares for her and admires her. This feeling may develop early after puberty, during school age, so she tells herself or others around her say: "Shame on you, daughter, you are still a child, you are not even supposed to feel this feeling." Thus, the woman suppresses this feeling, but it is a natural feeling, so it will keep coming back to her.

Incorrect Expression of Emotion

So, the woman resorts to expressing this feeling in different ways: she adorns herself in clothing, posts her pictures on TikTok and Instagram, she might try to have a relationship with boys and convince herself that these are spontaneous youthful movements with no bad intentions, and that they have nothing to do with lust or sex, God forbid, under the name of friendship, camaraderie, getting to know each other, helping with studies.

Reaction of Religion and Society

Here comes religion to tell her: "What you are doing is haram, your clothing is not lawful, posting your pictures in this way is haram, your sitting, laughing, and joking with boys in school or the university cafeteria is haram, following songs, romantic series, and movies is haram."

Oh brother, haram, haram, haram! What is this bitterness? You are complicated! These relationships are nothing, you just suspect the worst, you look at the girl as if she is a block of lust. Or some girls know and admit that they are doing haram, but it's normal for them, and their inner voice says: "Let it be haram, I want to do haram and no one has anything to do with me."

The woman in this expresses with emotion a complex she has and cannot find a solution for. She has an instinct, she has a natural attraction, she has the emotion of love, and this emotion has turned into a heavy burden, into a burning mass that does not find a healthy outlet.

The Missing Healthy Outlet

Marriage as a Natural Solution

What is the healthy outlet? Marriage, which Allah has permitted, and in which the emotion of love turns into a great blessing: affection, mercy, tranquility, loyalty, and the establishment of the great family institution, and children with whom the woman lives the emotion of motherhood.

Obstacles to Marriage

But the woman is deprived of this healthy outlet from puberty until the end of school at the age of 18. It is a shame for her to even think about marriage because she is legally and socially considered a child in society. If she thinks about marriage, she is considered lustful, shame on her! That is, for about seven to eight years after puberty, the woman lives in a state of denial and ignorance of the truth and hatred of a genuine feeling within herself, even though it is legitimate, natural, and healthy. And she might drag the matter with her for another two, four, or six years in higher education to get a better job opportunity.

Defaming Marriage

Throughout this entire journey, the woman is subjected to continuous defamation of the correct outlet for the emotion of love. Continuous defamation of marriage by feminist calls that make the man an enemy to her, by increasing cases of divorce, and wanting divorce for the good, but often accompanied by lewdness, revenge, and spite, seeing many homes failing, not based on affection and mercy. Even if marriage is not completely tarnished in the woman's mind, it is delayed due to the systematic impoverishment that Muslim peoples are subjected to, and the customs that make the step of marriage very difficult and costly, so youth delay until they are financially qualified for it, if they can qualify for it at all.

Seeking Alternative Outlets

The Available Haram

Throughout this entire period, the emotion of love in the woman seeks an outlet, and all available outlets are not lawful. The girl does this unlawful behavior while suffering and feeling pain, torn between the fear of haram, and at the same time, her emotion pressures her strongly. Lost and scattered, she does not see any hope for a nearby lawful relief, or she hates the lawful and excludes it from her considerations.

The Cute Thinkers

Then comes religion to tell her: "This is haram, this is haram, this is haram." So, she looks for cute thinkers, who are actually manipulators of Islam, who tell her: "What you are doing is not haram at all." She laughs at herself and listens to them to numb her feeling of guilt.

Who is the Real "Abu Nked"?

The Controlling Thieves

Societal Norms

International Agreements

Media and Educational Systems

Religion is Your Refuge, Not Your Opponent

Verses of Surah An-Nisa

The Weakness of Man and the Wisdom of Sharia

What Should the Woman Do?

Accept the Instinct

Fix the Situation

Learn Beneficial Knowledge

Uncover and Confront Plots

Learn Upbringing and Family Building

Resist Media Slavery

Patience

Conclusion

Final prayer and message.

Misconceptions about Religion

Or direct the pain and suffering towards religion, seeing "Abu Nukad," and may have ill thoughts about her Lord, His wisdom, and the perfection of His Sharia. No, my daughter, it is not religion that is "Abu Nukad." Come, let us understand what happened to you so that you can distinguish your enemy from your friend, and so that you may turn to Allah, not away from Him, may He be glorified and exalted.

Who is the Real "Abu Nukad"?

"Abu Nukad" are the thieves controlling the lands of the Muslims and the international system that steals the wealth of the Ummah, impoverishes its youth, and delays and complicates the proper outlet for emotions.

"Abu Nukad" are the trivial social norms that criminalize the natural feelings of a mature woman under the pretense that she is young and that it is a flaw, so the woman does not express it or seek the proper outlet for it.

"Abu Nukad" are the international agreements that criminalize marriage before the age of eighteen and protect and encourage fornication before the age of eighteen with all kinds of debasement, degradation, and hostility towards Allah and nature.

"Abu Nukad" is the educational and upbringing system. "Abu Nukad" is the capitalist media system that ignites your desires, O woman, and opens the door wide to the forbidden because it trades in appearances, profits materially by spreading unbridled sexual lust, and you, your emotions, and your nerves are the victims. If you fall into their trap, your worldly life and the Hereafter are the victims, and they benefit with a new number in their accounts at your expense.

Do you know who "Abu Nukad" is, my daughter? It is not religion. The Sharia of Allah is your refuge, not your enemy. Do you know whom you have ill thoughts about? Not the Most Merciful, who has placed the instinct in you for wisdom and regulated it with the generous Sharia so that it may be directed towards building families, societies, and the betterment of this world and the Hereafter, while the rabid dogs of the worshippers of wealth want to direct it to burn you for their benefit.

Religion is Your Refuge, Not Your Enemy

Keep all this in mind as you listen to the verses of the Most Merciful, may He be glorified and exalted, in Surah An-Nisa after mentioning the rulings related to the proper outlet for emotions, the proper release of the emotions of men and women. He, may He be glorified and exalted, said: {Allah wishes to make clear to you and guide you to the ways of those before you and to accept your repentance. And Allah is Knowing and Wise. Allah wishes to accept your repentance, but those who follow their desires wish you to deviate a great deviation. Allah wishes to lighten the burden for you, for man was created weak.} (Quran 4:26-28)

Allah knows that you are weak and have intense emotions, so He has prohibited what He has prohibited and permitted what He has permitted. It is not Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, who has drowned you in this suffering, but it is "Abu Nukad" whom we have mentioned who has caused you to fall. Then these criminals came to delude you that they understand your emotions and needs with their series and romances, which have only increased your torment, and they stood with you, mocking those who remind you of the permissible and the forbidden while they stab you in the back. Allah is your refuge, not your enemy, so do not have ill thoughts about Him and His Sharia, may He be glorified and exalted.

You, O poor one, are not comfortable even when you make unregulated actions. You are not comfortable competing with girls in beautification, spreading pictures, and gaining likes, then what? Emptiness, envy, a sense of triviality. You attach yourself to youth, you let go of the legal hijab, you try to attract attention, then what? Your mind is preoccupied with what is of no benefit, thirst without shade, a heart that has lost tranquility, and attachment without benefit.

You rebel and suppress the call of nature, and you delude yourself into thinking that you can do without men forever, and you attach yourself to the claims of the strong independent woman, and at the same time, you beautify yourself, and you try to comfort yourself with one of them, hesitant and confused. May Allah's protection be upon you, may He be glorified and exalted.

What Should the Woman Do?

So what should the woman do? {So flee to Allah.} (Quran 51:50)

First: Your emotion, your instinct, your desire, this is not a flaw; this is part of your creation that Allah has placed in you for wisdom. But I am not able to express it in a legal way. Do you now know the reason? Direct your energies to reforming these situations that have deprived you and the girls of your gender and the sons of the Muslims with you of the proper outlet. Much of the energy, the immense energy of reform, begins with the feeling of pain and oppression.

Direct your energies to learning beneficial knowledge. Learn the Sharia of the Most Merciful, which regulates matters and is in complete harmony with the nature and instinct that Allah has placed in you. {Does He not know, He who has created, and He is the Most Subtle, the All-Aware.} (Quran 67:14) Allah, who has placed emotion and instinct in you, is the same One who has permitted and prohibited for you out of mercy and reform for your worldly life and the Hereafter.

Direct your energies to exposing the plots and confronting them. The plots of international organizations and their agents who want you to deviate greatly. And we have dedicated the series "The War on Nature" to explain their evil and criminality against you.

Direct your energies to learning upbringing so that you may raise a noble generation that resists enslavement and the theft of wealth, and return Muslim communities to what they were in their days of glory, where youth earn their livelihoods and build their families at an early age.

Direct your energies to confronting the enslavement of the media and capitalism to you and your Ummah through desires.

Direct your energies to learning how to build a family where each member knows their rights, duties, and roles, and the Sharia governs them all, and they seek refuge under its shade so that you may draw a beautiful model of the permissible in an era that distorts the permissible and beautifies the forbidden.

And be patient in all of this, my daughter. Be patient from actions that are not regulated by the Sharia. Be patient from expressing your emotion in an improper way. Just as youth are commanded to be patient, you are commanded to be patient, and whoever is patient, Allah will grant him patience. But in all of this, my daughter, do not let the real "Abu Nukad" distance you from Allah and make you have ill thoughts about Him, may He be glorified and exalted. The worldly life will perish, and with Allah, the patient will be rewarded without measure.

I ask Allah, the Most High, to forgive the daughters of the Muslims, to reform them, to attach their hearts, and to make it easy for them and the youth of the Ummah to have happy marriages. May the peace, mercy, and blessings of Allah be upon you.